I am a wife. Sometimes a really good one. Sometimes a really crappy one. Most of the time an acceptable one. Same thing goes with the mom thing. It's a good thing I like my work! All of my perspectives boil down to one - what others do matters not one iota to me. Until my family has to pay for it. If my family is *forced* to pay for another's welfare in any form outside of the scope of gubmint, then I'll say something about it. Someone has to. And therefore SOUTH of the FORK.